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In Search of an Honourable Man

From a recent comment thread on TP, About War and Duels, and concerning young men going to war:

I can add that not having battle experience was a good way not to find a wife willing to marry you in the first place, because you had not yet proven yourself to be brave and reliable, and who would want a man not brave and reliable? (V. V.)

I noted that brave and reliable men are difficult to find these days, and sighed.

In the modern age, “going to war” is of course entirely different than in former times.  Instead of taking up sword and shield, and defending one’s ancestral lands against invaders, going to war now means enrolling oneself into a National Armed Force and taking orders from the political leaders of your Zionist Occupied Government to invade sovereign nations in foreign lands.  No disrespect to the men and women of our military, as I know it still requires bravery on a personal level to commit oneself to this…but obviously it is an entirely different thing than in times past.

War is not what I wish to discuss here, instead I want to examine the qualities of man.

To me, my father is the ultimate prototype of the honourable man.  I feel tremendously privileged to be able to say that.  He is calm and patient.  Good-natured and kind.  Hard-working and reliable.  The embodiment of honesty and integrity.  Wise and thoughtful.  A craftsman, a perfectionist.  Open and welcoming.  Knowledgeable and informative.  Loving and expressive.  Never have I seen him angry or frustrated.

He built a road to my grandfather’s land, dug the foundation, and with the help of my grandfather, uncle and brother, built our family home with his own hands and finished it, inside and out.  The yard is a lovely park enveloped by hardwood forest.

Last weekend he helped me lay a concrete patio in my yard.  He is awesome.  ❤

When my best friend met my father, and gave him a hug before we left for town, she said something to the effect of, “You make it really tough for the men in Janice’s life,” she laughed.  “You set the bar pretty high!”

It is true.  One has to have standards…and for me, it is important that when I have children, they must be able to feel the same way about their father as I feel about my father.  To look up to him as an example of all that is good and honourable.

Does such a man even exist today?

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6 responses

  1. tuli1121

    If you find this elusive creature, let me know if he has a brother. 😀

    October 22, 2013 at 11:52 pm

    • Lol will do! 😀

      October 24, 2013 at 12:10 am

  2. nightsidewanderer

    It’s hard to find great men today but not impossible. Don’t lowewr your standarts and wait, he will appear.

    October 24, 2013 at 6:22 pm

  3. Effortism

    It’s always been that way in former times, regarding war. which tribes try to take others land. Look to genghis khan and many many other examples. War never was between right and wrong, It’ll always be between two rights.

    No one can find 100% partner, it can’t be… we will get headache from anyone, but since that guy/girl reliable and honourable, it’s worth suffering with. Like nietzsche said: a couple trying to be one it’s false in nature but when they try, this is something Big and Epic.

    Before we’ve became a “we” there’s “me” and there’s “you”. Space from time to time it’s important to relation to last forever these days…it’s really MAIN….MAIN.

    October 29, 2013 at 8:19 pm

  4. Aleksandra

    I find it very moving to see another woman think this way. My husband and I have long ago noticed that there are too many girls with innocent eyes who date over-confident, immoral, skinny and weak half-men… All those forever-boys, who feel confident about themselves cause they wear ridiculous modern clothing and are good with ”rhetoric” which simply means that they talk a lot and have a smart-ass answer to everything, but wouldn’t be able to defeat their own girlfriend in a hand wrestling competition, and do not have any moral spine whatsoever. Those boys, unfortunately, are modern ”men” and are very often considered more mature than my husband, who does not spend his time being a world-loving thoughtless party boy, who does not try to outsmart everyone, who does not tell loud sexually-themed jokes, but who looks after his family, who loves his cat, who prefers to play with his son than go to a pub, who makes all those ridiculous and impractical musical instruments and doesn’t even use machines for that but does it with his own hands…

    November 2, 2013 at 7:45 pm

    • Aleksandra

      Anyway, good luck with finding your honourable man- I’m sure you will, and he will appreciate that you have looked for him instead of lowering your standards!

      November 2, 2013 at 8:19 pm

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